This internal audit is exhausting. It leads to , where the nervous system remains in a state of high alert. If the person who was your "safe harbor" is now the source of your pain, the brain struggles to process where to go for safety. The Overlap of Grief
In the wake of betrayal, minimize contact if possible. Your nervous system needs a "detox" from the source of the chaos to begin recalibrating. Blindsided By Betrayal, Grappling Past Grief
The person you were before you knew what they were capable of. This internal audit is exhausting
Stop telling yourself you "should have known." You didn't know because you are a person who operates in good faith. That is a strength, not a weakness. The Overlap of Grief In the wake of
Grappling past grief doesn't mean you'll never feel the sting again. It means the sting no longer has the power to stop your life. There is a profound, quiet strength in the person who has been shattered and chooses to put themselves back together—perhaps with a few visible seams, but with a much deeper understanding of their own resilience.